For many Kenyans living abroad, especially in the United States, there is a common phrase often heard within diaspora circles: “Me, I don’t want anything to do with Kenyans.”
It usually comes up when someone is invited to a Kenyan church, community gathering, chama meeting, or social event. When asked why, many respond with familiar complaints — that fellow Kenyans gossip too much, are jealous, too inquisitive, or overly involved in other people’s lives.
As a result, some prefer the anonymity of large American churches and communities where nobody notices whether you attend services or participate in social activities. Life feels easier when you can stay private and avoid community drama.
However, reality often tells a different story.
When Tragedy Strikes, It Is Fellow Kenyans Who Show Up
Many Kenyans in the diaspora discover the true value of community during moments of crisis.
Whether it is illness, immigration problems, financial hardship, funeral arrangements, or family tragedy, the first people to rally around you are often fellow Kenyans. While American friends may offer kind words, sympathy, and emotional support, it is usually the Kenyan community that takes action.
They organize fundraisers.
They contribute money.
They cook meals.
They make tea and mandazi.
They visit hospitals and homes.
They help with childcare and transportation.
They stay present through difficult moments.
In many cases, some contributors may not even know you personally. Yet they still step in because that spirit of community support is deeply rooted in Kenyan culture.
Yes, there may still be gossip whispered in mother tongues during mashakaya gatherings. Some may jokingly ask, “Where are those Americans now?” But despite the gossip, the care and practical support remain genuine and visible.
The Kenyan Spirit Abroad Remains Strong
One of the greatest blessings many Kenyans carry into the diaspora is the culture of helping one another. Despite our differences, Kenyans abroad continue to demonstrate resilience, generosity, and unity during times of need.
That is why many community leaders are encouraging diaspora Kenyans to reconnect with their roots and support systems instead of isolating themselves.
Ways Kenyans in Diaspora Can Stay Connected:
Attend a Kenyan church occasionally
Join a chama or investment group
Participate in Kenyan community events
Build friendships with fellow Kenyan families
Create play groups for children
Network through sports like golf or soccer
Encourage children to know other Kenyan children
These connections help preserve identity, culture, language, and community values for future generations growing up abroad.
Building Identity for Kenyan-American Children
For Kenyan families raising children in America, Canada, Europe, Australia, and other parts of the world, maintaining cultural identity is increasingly important.
Children who grow up connected to other Kenyan families often develop:
- Stronger cultural confidence
- Better understanding of their heritage
- Sense of belonging
- Lifelong friendships within the diaspora
- Respect for Kenyan traditions and values
Many Kenyan-Americans proudly embrace both cultures. Loving Kenya does not mean rejecting America. Most diaspora families successfully balance both identities while contributing positively to their adopted countries.
From “I Don’t Want Kenyans” to “I Love Kenyans”
The message being shared by many diaspora voices today is simple:
Instead of constantly distancing ourselves from fellow Kenyans, we should work toward strengthening our communities abroad.
No community is perfect. Every group has its challenges. But during life’s most difficult moments, the Kenyan diaspora community repeatedly proves its value through action, generosity, and solidarity.
Perhaps it is time to replace the phrase:
“Me, I don’t want anything to do with Kenyans.”
With:
“Me, I love Kenyans.”
Because no matter where life takes us, the Kenyan spirit of helping one another continues to shine across the diaspora.
By Hannah Wanjiku, Orange County, California
Holy Spirit Swahili Catholic Community, Kent
