Meaning and the Promise of Marriage
As I am going through a divorce now, I am the last person you would think would want to write about marriage. But I believe that marriage is a sacred union and “not to be entered into lightly.”
Marriage is commitment. Its success doesn’t depend on feelings, circumstances or moods — but on two people who are loyal to each other and the vows they took on their wedding day.
Marriage is hard work. It means chores, disagreements, misunderstandings and times when you might not like each other very much. But when you work at it together, it can be the greatest blessing in the world. It’s a relationship where TWO people must listen, compromise and respect each other; a union in which TWO people learn from their mistakes, accept faults and WILLINGLY adjust behaviors that need to be changed.
Marriage means talking things out, making necessary changes and forgiving each other. It’s love at its most understanding. Marriage is determination to triumph over every challenge and adversity.
Marriage is a partnership of two unique people who know that even though God wonderfully made them as individuals, they are even better together.
We all need a partner who will remain by our side.
Someone we can lean on at times, remembering we will be leaned on too. Understand there will be difficult times … it is then you must trust each other the most and believe that love will sustain you.
Give a lot, overlook even more and always expect as much in return. The give and take has to be equal on both sides. Never lose yourself, but celebrate the special privilege of being a couple. Never lose sight of what brought you to the altar in the first place: your special love for each other. Cherish that love “’til death you part.”
If at all possible, hold your loved one dear to your heart. Take responsibility for upholding your end of the “bargain.” Admit your mistakes.
Grow into a better person and be the first to say “I’m sorry.” But don’t allow your partner to beat you down mentally or physically. God doesn’t expect you to stay in any abusive situation.
Those of you who believe in the power of prayer, please pray for me during this difficult time in my life. I know that God is still in control of everything. I’ll put my confidence in Him.
May God’s love always shine down on you and your special someone.
Look for part two of “The Promise of Marriage” in next week’s column.