And the Bells keep ringing: Keeping marriage alive in Kenya

And the Bells keep ringing: Keeping marriage alive in Kenya


A forty some Kenyan diaspora woman is struggling with her present status: Single and child less. For many years, the idea of getting married was not in her mind. The desire to succeed in the world of education and status corrupted the concept of getting hocked up with some character that would reproduce through her. She wonders whether she could get children without a man, but even the idea of informal fertilization requires that some man donate the required ingredients to create a baby. The God order declares that a biological process of a man’s DNA must join with a woman’s DNA to produce a child. This dilemma has left her lonely and concerned that her DNA will finally evaporate into the annals of history, never to reproduce, ever!

It is not that she could not find a ‘hitch hiker’ looking for comfort in someone’s ‘car’. But that prospect goes against her ‘morality’; she believes that children are best raised by a mother and a father. Why this revelation did not occur to her while young is a dilemma that only she can resolve!  The advance in feminist theory is leaving many women childless and husband less. The propagation by Oprah Winfrey of the idea that a man and a woman exist in a home on absolute equal basis without compromise has seen many women reject the concept of wife and what the feminists see as a historical subjugation of women by men. They call for equality. However as nature would have it, this Promised Land is nothing but a mirage. Even the lion, KING of the jungle, has the female looking for food and feeding the whole family? By the way, what do the male lion do? Security? I wonder! But the female do their duty with grandeur and finesse!

The American landscape has also confused the whole issue of marriage. The United States Supreme Court extended marriage to include same sex marriage: An anathema in my circles. It is therefore a joy to hear Kenya’s president Uhuru Kenyatta refuse to bend to CNN’s Chief International Correspondent Christiane Amanpours’ drilling on why Kenya refuses to allow same sex marriage and what she calls, “Gay Rights.” The president mentioned our historical culture and shocked her by claiming, which is true, that 99 percent of Kenyans are 100% sure that the Gay and Lesbian idea is nonsense. As a Kenyan and one among the 99%, I argue that even the natural examination of the anatomy and physiology of men and women clearly indicates which organs should join together and where!

Therefore, when Timothy M. Mutai, son of Pastor Christopher Arap Mutai of Biblia Husema Broadcasting and EMG Radio and Television Network (BBN TV) married his longtime girlfriend in Nairobi this weekend, his mother and all the women in his village and church danced. They danced because every time a man marries a woman, it is a reminder of the Divine ideal created by God in the beginning: A defeat to the devil and his desire to destroy God’s GOOD earth and his special creation, Adam and Eve.

“And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.” Genesis 1:28. (KJV)

Blessed are the young who keep this blessing alive. Blessed be Timothy and his new bride!

Teddy Njoroge Kamau (Ph.D.)

HTBluff Associates


Diaspora Messenger Senior Columnist

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  1. Soni says

    Still wondering what was being conveyed in this post? Like my high school composition teacher would say, what is the moral of the story?
    What is “a forty some Kenyan” , a review of the writing to check for grammatical errors would have been appreciated by the readers.

    1. Lily says

      Me too…had to read twice thinking I missed a paragraph…

  2. Teddy says

    Soni, the problems is not the article. If you did not get the theme, you should stick to taifa leo.

  3. Mwamba says

    Your Commen
    my my! soni the writer is as clear as light! If you can’t get the theme, stick to children’s books. I mean that, seriously.

  4. X says

    This story has no tail or head. Total loss of my 3 minutes.

  5. Dr. Joe. says

    Great article, I like your approach on the subject and your defense on marriage and family. Good read.

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