How many times have we been offended and all we wanted was an apology? A meaningful apology can be the first step towards forgiveness. Many times we find it hard to forgive others especially when deeply hurt because we feel the apology was not heartfelt or meaningful. A successful apology can be seen as that which dissolves anger and humiliation. It shows respect, builds trust that may have been betrayed and helps prevent further misunderstanding. In short, a sincere apology makes it much easier to forgive.
A true apology depends on three Rs: regret, responsibility and remedy. Looking at the story of the prodigal son, the young man returned home after he had squandered his inheritance however, he approached his Father with humility and remorse. In relation to the three Rs, he expressed regret for the pain he had caused, took responsibility for what he had done and was prepared to work as a hired servant (remedy).
As followers of Christ we are instructed to forgive others when they repent and are sorry. In the Lord’s Prayer it says: Forgive us our debts (sin) as we also have forgiven our debtors therefore we should forgive as our Father in heaven forgives us. A sincere apology doesn’t force others to forgive, it can’t change the past, but it can brighten the future, bring healing and reconciliation. Finally, when you take the step to sincerely apologize, it creates a pathway toward the freedom of forgiveness.
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”
James 5:16
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