Kenyan woman takes to social media to save her marriage
A Kenyan woman is going to unusual lengths to save her marriage. Njeri Mucheru is fighting back on what she terms as her husband’s “deaf ears” through her blog NjeriMucheru.com. Njeri narrates how she came to find out that her husband was HIV positive even before they were married. She says however that through the 9 years of marriage and 3 children, she is still HIV negative. Njeri says once she discovered her husband’s infidelity, she has not been speaking to him nor picked up his phone calls. This prominent lawyer has turned to blogging to seek the public’s help in reaching out to her husband for him to get saved. She says this is the only way she is ever talking to him again. Here is part of the blog….
My husband called me yesterday. I do not pick his calls. I do not speak to him. I stopped speaking to him because he does not listen to me. He does not listen to anything I say.
Since I discovered about his infidelity, I came to realize that everything I ever said to him was stored in a folder in his mind for future use.
At one time, he told me that someone called him a ‘gold-digger’. He then said that I was going around telling people that I am the one who supports our family and not him. He reached this conclusion because according to him, I always told people about the things that I had done like when I paid for the new sofas in our home. This is when he was telling me what was wrong with me. He said I was boastful.
At another time, he reminded me that I once compared him to one of his relatives and told him that he was refusing to think and with that I meant that he and his relatives are fools; so I look down on them.
I am unable to explain myself to my husband and he is unable to hear me let alone understand me. I also do not want to get into any argument with him. The image of me that he has concocted in his mind is a lie. I am not who he thinks I am.
I was told that he was calling me because he is afraid of my speaking at the Ignite Summit.
My husband’s greatest fear is for people to know who he really is.
I on the other hand find great joy in revealing my true self to the whole world.
In order to get saved, God made me face my greatest fear which was being rejected by a man that I loved. It is true that I was proud. I believed that I was all that and my husband was lucky to have me as his wife. The realization of just how little my husband valued my love for him tormented me and almost killed me.
Now it is my husband’s turn to get saved. We are saved by the grace of God. I believe that my husband can get saved because God is using me to make my husband face his greatest fear. God never fails and cannot be defeated. My husband will get saved. You wait and see.
We are married. We are one. So the same rules apply to my husband as they applied to me. I got saved, so will he.
Anything I ever said or did ended up in the folder in my husband’s mind from which he extracted all manner of accusations against me to tell his girlfriends what was wrong with me. In the same way, anything my husband says or does will end up on this blog.
The difference here is motive. My husband’s motive was to demean me; my motive is to save my husband. There is a very important point to gather here. What my husband did showed me what was wrong with me and when I realized what was wrong with me, I changed and got saved. I am doing the same for my husband.
My husband’s number is 0722523443. He also has a celtel number 0733523443. (The last five digits of his current receptionist/girlfriend’s number are 23443).
At this stage, I would like to make a special request to you, my readers.
Any of you who is determined to see my husband get saved, please call him for me and give him the following message:
Tell him that because he is the father of my children, I love him and what I am doing writing this blog and speaking at the ignite summit and appearing on television where I am telling, and will tell the whole world about what he did to me, is motivated by that love. He should therefore just relax and not fear anything. Tell him that I want him to get saved so that he can be able to hear me when I talk to him and it is only when he gets saved that I will start talking to him again. For now, he will have to talk to me through others. Ask him whether he has any message for me and listen to the message. Whatever happens when you call, post it as a comment to this lesson.
The ‘Save David Campaign’ is not a one woman show. I cannot save him alone. You guys have to help me.
David has to come to a realization that the real him is as wonderful a sight to behold as the real me is. He should remember just how young, slim and beautiful I became once I faced my greatest fear and let God help me overcome it.
Come to the Ignite Summit on Tuesday 17th September 2013 and watch me on K24 on Friday 20th September 2013 at 8.30pm and come to the GSAS on 28th September 2013 from 3.30pm to 5.30pm and see for yourself.
Summary for This Lesson:-
The real you is a wonderful sight to behold.
Tip for this lesson:-
Find your greatest fear and face it head-on.
To read more from Njeri, visit her blog http://njerimucheru.com/